May 20, 2014

Ex

Posted by Deepa at 10:24 AM
Who exactly do you define as ex?
Someone you dated for a period, it didn't work out and you parted ways in good terms or bad terms.
The ones who were your boyfriend /girlfriend  and you guys were in a relationship and broke up and either are just friends now or not in touch at all.

But, what about those, whom you flirted with in that mini-vacation in Goa, so much so that a stranger might think you guys are an item.
What about those with whom you went out for a couple of times and then lost touch?
What about those whom you had a crazy crush on for many many years, who was your bestest friend then and you have imagined a fairytale life with them but they never reciprocated and are not friends anymore?
What about that person whom you were with, until he suddenly left you for another girl?
What about that person whom you used to totally swoon on but never had the guts to express it?

This people aren't technically ex-bfs/ex-gfs but they are ex-something?
So, are these ex-something's considered as ex's?

These somethings are sure to stir up some feeling when their names come up.

(Am sure you reading this might be having a few people in your head now)

That small pang of jealousy when they post a picture with their new partner
That little smile when they "Like" a picture of yours, you get this feeling that maybe you are still on their mind
That frustration when the first name that springs up is theirs when you are searching for someone else
That butterfly feeling when you see an old pic of you guys together in some old laptop

Its inescapable in this digital age, with Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp and mutual friends, they are bound to spring up somewhere, sometime in life.

Just because you did not date, doesn't mean you weren't intimate. Physically or Emotionally
There could have been real feelings for them, that feeling may not be "love" but it was "like-love-attraction"
You could have been imagining a future with them before it all drained away, but that feeling you had for them just cannot be discounted because it was only a month or so.
You may never see any of these people again, You may not even remember their names but they’re still exes. The intimacy was real, it just came without any sort of commitment.

A toast to those Ex-Something's

That's the way it was meant to be. Isn't it?

A toast to all those Ex's and their memories

22 comments:

GK on May 20, 2014 at 10:56 AM said...

Wow.... Mast...! Truly wonderfully written....!! (Y) :-)

Deepa on May 20, 2014 at 10:58 AM said...

Thank you GK :-)

Soumya on May 20, 2014 at 1:58 PM said...

Hahaha a toast indeed to all my ex'es. They all remain a distant memory now!

Deepa on May 20, 2014 at 6:22 PM said...

Same here....too many to count :P

Keirthana on May 20, 2014 at 7:12 PM said...

Wow, must say this is a very grey area and you have handled it in writing too well. Hats off!

Anonymous said...

hehe! Love it and something I didn't think bout'..It's WoW post..Sometimes, I wonder how to call them, tiny crushes, the girl who was everything for me, we spent hours together yet we were never physical. How would one call it:)

Preeti S. on May 20, 2014 at 8:19 PM said...

Yes, I do have a couple of faces and names floating in my mind right now. It has become extremely complicated to sort out feelings as well as people. There is a person. He is nice. You like him. But do you like him as a friend or more than a friend? Oh I don't know. I like spending time with them and they make me happy, accepted and comfortable in my own skin. Ah. Definitely more than friends. What? What? What?

Beautifully penned; you included all the shades of those forgotten feelings one has for their ex-somethings. :)

the little princess on May 21, 2014 at 12:38 AM said...

sticky zone!! :) :) love them or hate them...but you just cannot forget them! great post!

the little princess on May 21, 2014 at 12:38 AM said...

sticky zone!! :) :) love them or hate them...but you just cannot forget them! great post!

Bikram on May 21, 2014 at 2:18 PM said...

Oh boy!!! in that case I am sure we all have a big list of Ex's :) yes a TOAST indeed ..

made me smile and small memories came by.. the mini vacation's .. the train journey.. the This .. the THAt :)

Bikram

Deepa on May 21, 2014 at 2:30 PM said...

Keirthana Thank you :)

Deepa on May 21, 2014 at 2:30 PM said...

Vishal now you know what to call them...a simple 2 letter word...Ex

Deepa on May 21, 2014 at 2:32 PM said...

Enigma Princess and B They came. They met us. We liked. We parted but somewhere their face is still there

Unknown on May 28, 2014 at 5:59 PM said...

sahi boli re ...

Deepa on May 28, 2014 at 6:34 PM said...

Chetu tere toh ex'ski ginti khatamach nahi hoti hoengi naa

Unknown on June 1, 2014 at 10:32 AM said...

sounds like you had a couple of.... just kidding.any way sounds good.
I too blog.
Please check it out if you have some time
http://themightydropofink.blogspot.in/

Deepa on June 1, 2014 at 10:15 PM said...

Prashanth I didnt have a coiple of Ex's
I have way too many to put myself in a scandalous list.
Thanks for reading and I checked out our blog, Nice work

Rajesh on June 7, 2014 at 9:16 PM said...

X????? Y?? Technically, there are no exes. They are all axes waiting to fall on you at the right opportune time :) Just when I and my beautiful (and very recent) girlfriend were having chana by the seaside, I was axed by one of my exes. Oh! So you are with her now (snigger snigger)? And off she goes.

OAK1297 on June 10, 2014 at 8:09 PM said...
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Deepa on June 23, 2014 at 6:25 PM said...

Rajesh..luckily all my exes have been darlings :-)

Lonely soul on October 28, 2014 at 3:46 PM said...

I nva thought about dz...u were so sure dat v have some 1 in our head while reading dz post.thanks for sharing dear;-)

Deepa on January 20, 2015 at 12:04 PM said...

:-) its obvious that we end up relating such things to someone in our life.
Thanks for reading Lonely

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