May 21, 2013

Love Lane

Posted by Soumya at 12:33 PM 7 comments
Tomorrow, I finish two months of being married to the man I love. I thought this would be the best post to come out of my hiatus on DOV. I promise, I shall post more frequently henceforth.

Maybe it was a plan, maybe it was fate
It could have been music, or even a chime
But something brought us close together
At the right place, at the right time

You gave yourself to me completely
I was drawn to you in total trust
I was I and you were you
Not once did we have to adjust

We spoke, we laughed and understood
As we put together our dreams and hopes
This was what bound us together
As we became Calvin and Hobbes

When you held my hand tight
I knew this is where I belong
That was when your laughter
Then became my favorite song

I already knew what love was
But you taught me the pleasures of romance
Butterflies came and did their part
And then my heart learnt how to dance

You have given me the best of gifts
Like warmth, peace and happiness
In a short period of time 
You showed me what love really is

You leave me wanting nothing more
Than just wanting more of you
Its amazing how you manage to do it
Everyday you make me feel something new

If there were a reason to keep living
I’ve found a million in you
This is what you’ve done to me
And still you continue to do

After all that we've happily been through
Today I'm joyfully insane
We have set up a long life
In the wonderful love lane

The feelings around us is our home
Together where we laugh and play
We shall never leave this place
And yet shall return to it everyday

May 18, 2013

Virgin-Shirgin hai rabba!!

Posted by My Cactus Dress at 9:11 AM 4 comments
I read a couple of discussions on "Virginity" and I feel proud and glorified at the same time, to know that there is existence of  mature, bold and non-hypocritical women, like the Darlings here at "Darlings of Venus"

Much respect, to all.

I read and read and everything I wanted to portray, is already mentioned.

Almost all the Darlings here, adhered the same concept as mine. Choice.

But, what after your mind heart (ouchh!) has already made a choice?? How do you deal, when your choice is against the society, you are breathing in?

Staying outside India, and being able to taste the society in different parts of the world, I would like to showcase how the notion of virginity is perceived in other parts of the world and how people have stood up to them.

Firstly, do not forget, there are religions that exist in the western world too, whose dogmas restricts their people from having fornication prior to marriage and there are ample of people who follow that religiously. So, erase the belief that, it is only in India, where sex before marriage is unacceptable.

Secondly, it is true that westerners have much freedom when it comes to sex and losing ones virginity. They are never judged or asked questions unlike the eastern side of the world. In fact, you would be looked upon with doubts, if you have reached a certain age and are still not unsealed however, with freedom, comes the understanding of enforcing worthy decisions.

For example, If you hide a jar of sugar from a kid, he would always wonder about its taste. He would go to an extent to hop on it, the next chance he gets, just to check what it tastes like. And it doesn't matter if he enjoys it or hates it, he would do it again and again as he thinks he is deprived of it. That happens because of some weird psychological way our brains are wired.
If that same jar is given to him with a warning about the outcomes, he might not feel the urge to taste it, until he determines he is ready. Even if he does, he now have the freedom to decide if its good or bad and can thus accept or ignore it. It's a very basic human psychology.

Another example- In France, teens are introduced to wines and lighter alcohol by their own parents at dinner table. With growing age, they learn the consequences and their effects. And that is the reason why, you'll rarely find drunk driving records or some drunkard abusing all his way, in the streets or bars of France. Unlike France, India or even in the US, alcohol is stamped as something "adult" or "bad" right from the start and you can see the results. Once they get the access, people drink like gutters until they drop.

It is an identical case here, when it comes to Virginity. There is this freedom in the western countries, which will devise your mind and body capable enough to make your own choices according to your desires and beliefs.

People who chose to stay virgin.

Jonas Brothers. Even teens, practice abstinence in this day and age. The eldest one gave up the Purity Ring when he got married.

Celine Dion also preferred to stay a virgin until she got married at the age of 26. 

Hard to believe but, Jessica Simpson stayed virgin until she got married. She wore a Purity Ring which she received from her Father. She religiously kept her promise.

  Ahh! Our much beloved Phoebe, Lisa Kudrow, who is actually, always pictured as wild and sexual, remained virgin until the age of 32! She got married and gifted her much preserved virginity to her husband.

Taylor Swift. Thousands of opinions on love and break up but, chose to stay virgin until marriage.

Adriana Lima. She is the Victoria's Secret Angel who determined to stay virgin for her future husband, whom she married at the age of 27. Talk about. "lack of opportunity"

And while I am at it, I think, people who boast "Virginity is the lack of opportunity" are at the bottom of the barrel of loathsomeness and they should be extinct., like right now!!
(Note that, throughout my life, this quote was used by non-virgins who  massaged their lost self-respect by bragging how virginity is actually because of nonavailability of a partner. Opportunity meant partner to them. Hence the anger.)

 Venus and Serena Williams, are Christians, who believe, sex before marriage is a sin.

 Taylor Lautner, one of the biggest heartthrob of Chicas, also wears a Purity Ring.

One of the funniest lady, a talented actress and my personal favorite, Tina Fey, also gifted her virginity to her husband when she got married at the age of 24.

And there are many more. These are the people who refused to wear a poker face and embraced their values, which were ill-fitted in their civilization. We are yet to find our ways to make THAT happen in India.

I am not asking to preserve your virginity, through these example. I am trying to explain how it's okay to not believe in what others do, and stand up to it. I would have given examples of people who didn't believe in preserving oneself and stood up for it in public, if I had any.

Unless, we do not embrace our own beliefs and values and keep pretending being someone we are not, we are a bigger hypocrite, than people who consider sex or virginity a taboo.

No matter what our habitat is, it doesn't matter what clan of people we are surrounded with, we have to develop our own doctrines, our own opinions and our own conceptions and then accept them without any pretense.

If your values prohibit or stops you from giving away your maidenhood, then so be it. Do not command your self to go with the flow or try to tag yourself broad minded to fit it.

If you believe in losing your V card to anyone you think is right for you, then don't be a pretentious douche and blame men or sing the usual sagas of how "love" made you do it.

Again, accept your beliefs. There is nothing wrong in it.


I would like to end this prolonged chattering with this hilarious, refreshing, shocking, infuriating, disturbing, too-funny-to-be-true, invention/image.

Blessed are those who can read Hindi.

Get it? Got it? Good.

May 15, 2013

5 things to never underestimate in a woman

Posted by My Cactus Dress at 5:04 AM 6 comments

1. Her strength
Lakshmibai, The Rani of Jhansi

2. Her power 
Angela Merkel

3. Her dreams
Oprah Winfrey

4. Her love
Mother Teresa

5. Her wrath
Phoolan Devi

Only because she can flip the world upside down, for good or for bad, with just one of these.

May 11, 2013

Happy Birthday Raumali Darling !

Posted by Smita at 10:42 PM 2 comments
You are a Darling
A darling for your parents,
your siblings,
your friends
to everyone else in this world.

You are a Darling to Darlings of Venus !

We wish you all the happiness and fun of the world.
Hope all the lights brighten up your day, mayall the frolic be your mate today.

Wish you a very Happpy Happpy Happpy Happpy Happpy wala birthday.


May 1, 2013

I am a Woman..Not an Object

Posted by DeeDee at 11:48 PM 15 comments
This is my first post on DOV's and trust me my excitement is boundless...Its somehow like a small dream coming true..
But, even being my first might be a little gruesome to start with..

The newest gruesomest barbaric act by a 22 year old asshole in our capital Delhi.

5 year old being raped and 200ml oil bottle and candles inserted in that kid.. (Ouch!! Cant Imagine..), locked up in a room for 3 days hungry and undetected, and also that ass tried to strangulate that little baby.

The police tried to give 2000 bucks to the family to "settle" the case. The kid's relatives were lathi-charged on the streets by police.

Ok, now what do our politicians, the khaps, the so-called baba's have to say..

Ohh..maybe that 5 year old was super sexy and seductive .maybe she was wearing revealing clothes, or maybe she gave her consent to sex right?

She didn't call him "brother" or didn't say a "saraswati mantra"
Or maybe it was just absolutely ok.. because she was a female..
A 5 year old is cute, naughty, sweet not hot, sexy and a babe..its a baby..

Even if a case goes on, the verdict will come after 10 years giving the 22 year old son-of-a-bitch a 5 year "rigorous" imprisionment and Rs. 15,000 fine..
So..that is the value of a the life of a small baby and the pain and trauma endured by her.
The woman Chief Minister is quiet...The woman who literally has the Govt in her closed corrupt fist has nothing to say..
Our Govt is busy passing stupid laws to "Ban Pornography" "Close bars" "Ban smooch scenes in movies" but is taking its sweet time to pass the life changing "rape law" and "lokpal bills"

We don't want another Nirbhaya..We don't want candles lit...We don't want to be named "dented and tainted"..We don,t want to be told what to wear and what not to...We don,t want to walk in fear in dark alleys at any time of the day...We don't want to be forever anxious to let our little kids play alone...

We want freedom..We want to live a secure life..We want JUSTICE

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