Since many of you here are
girls in love or on the verge of an adult life and thereby a possible wedding,
I thought of letting in some secrets from my own married life to be a sort of
guiding light:
How to keep the husband
hooked, booked and cooked?
-THE ESSENTIAL
COMMANDMENTS!
Part 1:
Little everyday efforts which every woman should
practise and please it doesn’t make us drubbed or less feminist:
1. Wake him up each day
with a gentle pat on the cheek and a hush mush voice, coming close and resting
your cheek on his. Make sure this does not become a startling act instead-just
a tender ‘wake up to me honey’ kinda thing.
2. Follow it up with a
kiss on the cheek and a hug-just as his eyes have opened up. It is always
soothing to feel you are waking up to a dream come true and also always hug,
snuggle and kiss good night, it’s like sleeping into a dream.
3. Make sure he gets his
meals as soon as he comes on the dining table or on time. The way to a man’s
heart is through his stomach but then only when it is empty and not stretched.
4. Keep his cupboards neat
and things easily accessible. Don’t tamper with his things without asking.
5. Cook food at least once
in a while or contrive anything reasonably edible even if he wakes you up at 4
am (yes, in the morning) for it.
6. It makes you no less
modern if you press his feet once in a while after a tiring day or give him a
hot-oil head massage and watch how eagerly the favours are returned. You’d be
surprised to find that men love it if their shoes and socks are removed
lovingly by you once in a while.
7. Drop all chores and
greet him with a smile and a hug when he returns back from work and follow it
up with a glass of water. That’s the least by the way, I am leaving room for
innovation and improvisation here.
8. Stand by him if he’s
been slighted or ignored, especially by family members or relatives from your
side.
9. Always ask your man’s
choice before picking up clothes for yourself and try to follow mostly what he
suggests. Makes him feel that you value his opinion! If his own choice sucks, give
him option between the two things that you most like in the shop and any one of
them, if picked, would do just as well.
10. When he is talking to
you lend him your ears (and the rest of the body too) completely and show no
distractions. Nothing interests a man than a woman who’s interested in him okay, correction-a “hot” woman who’s interested in
him!
11. Once in a while,
cancel outing programmes when he’s not in the mood or tag along even if
disinterested, when he’s all for a party-kuch
paane ke liye kuch khona padta hain, kabhi kabhi hansne ke liye thoda rona
padta hain!
12. Keep his hot water
bucket ready and covered with a lid before he gets into the loo for a shower-refurnish
his toothbrush, soap, toothpaste, his shaving blades, etc before he’d have to
ask you for it. Heck, I even used to keep his entire clothes from the UG’s to
the sparkling shoes ready and laid out on the bed before he got out of the
bathroom in the initial wedded years.
13. If he goes to work unwell, call up a
couple of times to ensure he’s okay or send in a medicine. Stay up with him if
he can’t sleep-a cuddle here works wonders.
14. Be the one to initiate
a kiss and make up-saying sorry never hurts anyone and we can’t compete with
men’s ego anyways!
15. Take the initiative to
dress with just as much bother when going out alone with him, as you do when
going out with friends.
16. Laugh at his jokes and
with him-go up to him if he’s standing alone at a party or getting bored, even
of it means leaving your own gang.
17. Avoid blame games and
angry outbursts and the phrase “I told you so...” Keep the explaining for later
when you both are quieter.
18. Give him space-for
boys’ night out, for watching television late night or being on the internet
once in a while, for wanting to be alone, for choosing the clothes he wants to
wear, for not calling you for days, etc.
19. Make him feel it is okay
with you if he communicates with female friends. In fact discuss his interests
in the opposite sex by being casual about it, encouraging him to feel free to
share things with you.
20. Remember the tasks he asked
you to carry out before leaving for work or make a note of them-get his
medicine, sew the button, keep the evening shirt ironed, call up the sick
relative, get the fused tube light changed, or the spider webs from the
bathroom window removed, etc. Get it done without reminders!
Part 2:
These are sure shot winners, come on gals add that
zing and dash of romance:
1. Remember dates and days
that matter to him and make them special and memorable-like the day he grabbed
a big contract or deal, calls for a pastry and candle waiting on his return
that says “You are a genius”
2. His birthdays should be
flooded with special gestures- give him as many knick knacks as gifts as the
age he is stepping into/ a surprise party/ candle lit your room-make him a king
for the day! I’ve done them all and ready to share the secrets.
3. Hold hands sometimes in
public like while watching a movie in a theatre or playing footsy from under
the table.
4. Form your own codes to
be able to send across a message even in a crowd like touching the nose means
wanna hug you, pulling ears stands for a much needed kiss and so on!
5. Occasionally put little
notes in his travelling bag, in office pouch or in his cupboard to remind him
of you always. My husband’s wardrobe opens with a big sticker on the door
within that says “I love you soooo much.”
6. Have your own song that
reminds you of each other whenever it’s played anywhere-create a love poem for
him with mad personal touches of course and yup keep the language simple-you
are not writing for Shakespeare, gals!
7. Put photographs of your
holidays or just the two of you together in the room-on the walls or in frames
on shelves around. Nope, you are not giving him an overdose of you-you remind
him every now and then that his life with you is beautiful.
8. Text personal mobile
love messages just like that and send them each day, till it becomes a ‘looking
forward to’ habit.Once in a while make the message sexy to double the impact. Men
go dumb and numb under the influence of seductive provocation, even if it’s
just in words!
9. A nice body massage if done properly can ignite
many a flame. Introduce more physical variety to spice up lives and throw the
head-ache woes out of the window.
10. Buy new lingerie every
now and then. There’s nothing as exciting for him to hear you say mischievously
‘you get into bed and I’ll be back in a minute’ and then come back n how;)
11. Take a spa treatment
together or gift him one. Showers together always do more than just double
cleaning! Tuck him in bed and under the sheets every night-make him cosy
howsoever he may desire it and by how so ever I hope so ever that you get my
point.
12. Say ‘I love you’ everyday
and in every possible way like in the fog clad night, written with your fingers
on the glass of the car or after a hot bath on the steam masked mirror; on the
sand or with bamboo sticks laid out on the beach, with diyas saying it adorning
the floor when he walks in for a surprise on a very special day.
13. Go for walks or long
drives just like that-create a CD of all his favourite songs and put that on or
update his I-pod. Have morning tea or after dinner walk together. Form rituals
and be around at the times when he is mostly alone to fill up his voids.
14. Plan a boys night out
for him that’s a surprise. Do all the bookings and maybe once in a blue moon
make it an all expenses paid outing. You would have an occasional dent in your
pocket but never in your heart.
15. Keep buying gifts of
no reason or occasion for him every now and then like a shirt when you go
shopping for yourself, or a take away burger when you went for your gals only
brunch!
16. Share his past-make him talk about his
school days, college gigs, girlfriends and crushes, memorable moments. Gently
persist if he resists and not forcefully demand. But please don’t hold on to
the past-learn to accept it and move on.
17. It makes a man so
proud when the girl on his arm shows him a hot chick that he must check out
before she gets out of the domain. He’d just be looking at her with you,
instead of looking for excuses to send you in the shops and then ogle. I do
that all the time, sometimes we even discuss the assets and their worth and
have a good laugh over it.
18. Take him out for a
date dinner some night. He does not need to take his wallet because this one’s
on you-drive him there, keep a mini bar ready in the car (means two glasses, an
ice bucket, a packet of chips and the drinks...see not much!) and push back his
seat and let him relax. Make sure to stop the car in a deserted place for some
sweet “mouth” savouries every now and then!
19. Learn to pack his
suitcase for his journeys and make the effort to ensure his comfort like put
newspapers in the shirts so that they don’t crinkle, a mini medical kit, extra
polythenes to put in used clothes, etc.
20. You must give him a
hang of close, really close dancing at least once through a dancing out night.
It should be his moment there with you, when you make him unaware of people,
noise or other hot chicks around coz you are stupendously and teasingly close,
yet not really “in”!
Part 3:
What every woman should know and remember too for
these are the basics-The ABC...I know you know, but a reminder never hurts.
1. Respect his parents.
2. Appreciate his efforts and
shower compliments regularly.
3. Keep his home and home
atmosphere neat and pleasant.
4. Share his hassles and
encourage his interests.
5. Control your anger and
never shout at him.
6. Adapt to his friends-at
least sometimes if not always.
7. Cook what he likes
occasionally.
8. Look presentable when
you go out, if not a head turner.
9. Learn to trace his mood
and act accordingly.
10. Give him company and
time.
11. Don’t nag, complain or
crib all the time.
12. Don’t start off with
in-laws woes as soon as he enters home.
13. Don’t go on and on
about your own parents and family.
14. Don’t compare him with
anyone, even to educate him.
15. Don’t underestimate
the power of physical intimacy.
16. Never laugh at him
publically or check him always on his actions.
17. Never criticize a gift
given by him.
18. Money doesn’t count
all the time-don’t scrutinize or post-mortem all his spending.
19. Be yourself!
20. Keep the romance
alive, be his support and strength and by his side always.
Happy Hubby Humping!
