November 15, 2011

How to keep Husbands eternally yours!

Posted by Suruchi at 8:44 PM
Since many of you here are girls in love or on the verge of an adult life and thereby a possible wedding, I thought of letting in some secrets from my own married life to be a sort of guiding light:
How to keep the husband hooked, booked and cooked?
-THE ESSENTIAL COMMANDMENTS!

Part 1:
Little everyday efforts which every woman should practise and please it doesn’t make us drubbed or less feminist:
1. Wake him up each day with a gentle pat on the cheek and a hush mush voice, coming close and resting your cheek on his. Make sure this does not become a startling act instead-just a tender ‘wake up to me honey’ kinda thing.
2. Follow it up with a kiss on the cheek and a hug-just as his eyes have opened up. It is always soothing to feel you are waking up to a dream come true and also always hug, snuggle and kiss good night, it’s like sleeping into a dream.
3. Make sure he gets his meals as soon as he comes on the dining table or on time. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach but then only when it is empty and not stretched.
4. Keep his cupboards neat and things easily accessible. Don’t tamper with his things without asking.
5. Cook food at least once in a while or contrive anything reasonably edible even if he wakes you up at 4 am (yes, in the morning) for it.
6. It makes you no less modern if you press his feet once in a while after a tiring day or give him a hot-oil head massage and watch how eagerly the favours are returned. You’d be surprised to find that men love it if their shoes and socks are removed lovingly by you once in a while.
7. Drop all chores and greet him with a smile and a hug when he returns back from work and follow it up with a glass of water. That’s the least by the way, I am leaving room for innovation and improvisation here.
8. Stand by him if he’s been slighted or ignored, especially by family members or relatives from your side.
9. Always ask your man’s choice before picking up clothes for yourself and try to follow mostly what he suggests. Makes him feel that you value his opinion! If his own choice sucks, give him option between the two things that you most like in the shop and any one of them, if picked, would do just as well.
10. When he is talking to you lend him your ears (and the rest of the body too) completely and show no distractions. Nothing interests a man than a woman who’s interested in him okay, correction-a “hot” woman who’s interested in him!
11. Once in a while, cancel outing programmes when he’s not in the mood or tag along even if disinterested, when he’s all for a party-kuch paane ke liye kuch khona padta hain, kabhi kabhi hansne ke liye thoda rona padta hain!
12. Keep his hot water bucket ready and covered with a lid before he gets into the loo for a shower-refurnish his toothbrush, soap, toothpaste, his shaving blades, etc before he’d have to ask you for it. Heck, I even used to keep his entire clothes from the UG’s to the sparkling shoes ready and laid out on the bed before he got out of the bathroom in the initial wedded years.
 13. If he goes to work unwell, call up a couple of times to ensure he’s okay or send in a medicine. Stay up with him if he can’t sleep-a cuddle here works wonders.
14. Be the one to initiate a kiss and make up-saying sorry never hurts anyone and we can’t compete with men’s ego anyways!
15. Take the initiative to dress with just as much bother when going out alone with him, as you do when going out with friends.
16. Laugh at his jokes and with him-go up to him if he’s standing alone at a party or getting bored, even of it means leaving your own gang.
17. Avoid blame games and angry outbursts and the phrase “I told you so...” Keep the explaining for later when you both are quieter.
18. Give him space-for boys’ night out, for watching television late night or being on the internet once in a while, for wanting to be alone, for choosing the clothes he wants to wear, for not calling you for days, etc.
19. Make him feel it is okay with you if he communicates with female friends. In fact discuss his interests in the opposite sex by being casual about it, encouraging him to feel free to share things with you.
20. Remember the tasks he asked you to carry out before leaving for work or make a note of them-get his medicine, sew the button, keep the evening shirt ironed, call up the sick relative, get the fused tube light changed, or the spider webs from the bathroom window removed, etc. Get it done without reminders!

Part 2:
These are sure shot winners, come on gals add that zing and dash of romance:
1. Remember dates and days that matter to him and make them special and memorable-like the day he grabbed a big contract or deal, calls for a pastry and candle waiting on his return that says “You are a genius”
2. His birthdays should be flooded with special gestures- give him as many knick knacks as gifts as the age he is stepping into/ a surprise party/ candle lit your room-make him a king for the day! I’ve done them all and ready to share the secrets.
3. Hold hands sometimes in public like while watching a movie in a theatre or playing footsy from under the table.
4. Form your own codes to be able to send across a message even in a crowd like touching the nose means wanna hug you, pulling ears stands for a much needed kiss and so on!
5. Occasionally put little notes in his travelling bag, in office pouch or in his cupboard to remind him of you always. My husband’s wardrobe opens with a big sticker on the door within that says “I love you soooo much.”
6. Have your own song that reminds you of each other whenever it’s played anywhere-create a love poem for him with mad personal touches of course and yup keep the language simple-you are not writing for Shakespeare, gals!
7. Put photographs of your holidays or just the two of you together in the room-on the walls or in frames on shelves around. Nope, you are not giving him an overdose of you-you remind him every now and then that his life with you is beautiful.
8. Text personal mobile love messages just like that and send them each day, till it becomes a ‘looking forward to’ habit.Once in a while make the message sexy to double the impact. Men go dumb and numb under the influence of seductive provocation, even if it’s just in words!
9.  A nice body massage if done properly can ignite many a flame. Introduce more physical variety to spice up lives and throw the head-ache woes out of the window.
10. Buy new lingerie every now and then. There’s nothing as exciting for him to hear you say mischievously ‘you get into bed and I’ll be back in a minute’ and then come back n how;)
11. Take a spa treatment together or gift him one. Showers together always do more than just double cleaning! Tuck him in bed and under the sheets every night-make him cosy howsoever he may desire it and by how so ever I hope so ever that you get my point.
12. Say ‘I love you’ everyday and in every possible way like in the fog clad night, written with your fingers on the glass of the car or after a hot bath on the steam masked mirror; on the sand or with bamboo sticks laid out on the beach, with diyas saying it adorning the floor when he walks in for a surprise on a very special day.
13. Go for walks or long drives just like that-create a CD of all his favourite songs and put that on or update his I-pod. Have morning tea or after dinner walk together. Form rituals and be around at the times when he is mostly alone to fill up his voids.
14. Plan a boys night out for him that’s a surprise. Do all the bookings and maybe once in a blue moon make it an all expenses paid outing. You would have an occasional dent in your pocket but never in your heart.
15. Keep buying gifts of no reason or occasion for him every now and then like a shirt when you go shopping for yourself, or a take away burger when you went for your gals only brunch!
 16. Share his past-make him talk about his school days, college gigs, girlfriends and crushes, memorable moments. Gently persist if he resists and not forcefully demand. But please don’t hold on to the past-learn to accept it and move on.
17. It makes a man so proud when the girl on his arm shows him a hot chick that he must check out before she gets out of the domain. He’d just be looking at her with you, instead of looking for excuses to send you in the shops and then ogle. I do that all the time, sometimes we even discuss the assets and their worth and have a good laugh over it.
18. Take him out for a date dinner some night. He does not need to take his wallet because this one’s on you-drive him there, keep a mini bar ready in the car (means two glasses, an ice bucket, a packet of chips and the drinks...see not much!) and push back his seat and let him relax. Make sure to stop the car in a deserted place for some sweet “mouth” savouries every now and then!
19. Learn to pack his suitcase for his journeys and make the effort to ensure his comfort like put newspapers in the shirts so that they don’t crinkle, a mini medical kit, extra polythenes to put in used clothes, etc.
20. You must give him a hang of close, really close dancing at least once through a dancing out night. It should be his moment there with you, when you make him unaware of people, noise or other hot chicks around coz you are stupendously and teasingly close, yet not really “in”!

  
Part 3:
What every woman should know and remember too for these are the basics-The ABC...I know you know, but a reminder never hurts.
1. Respect his parents.
2. Appreciate his efforts and shower compliments regularly.
3. Keep his home and home atmosphere neat and pleasant.
4. Share his hassles and encourage his interests.
5. Control your anger and never shout at him.
6. Adapt to his friends-at least sometimes if not always.
7. Cook what he likes occasionally.
8. Look presentable when you go out, if not a head turner.
9. Learn to trace his mood and act accordingly.
10. Give him company and time.
11. Don’t nag, complain or crib all the time.
12. Don’t start off with in-laws woes as soon as he enters home.
13. Don’t go on and on about your own parents and family.
14. Don’t compare him with anyone, even to educate him.
15. Don’t underestimate the power of physical intimacy.
16. Never laugh at him publically or check him always on his actions.
17. Never criticize a gift given by him.
18. Money doesn’t count all the time-don’t scrutinize or post-mortem all his spending.
19. Be yourself!
20. Keep the romance alive, be his support and strength and by his side always.

Happy Hubby Humping!

41 comments:

Mystical Skeptical Me on November 15, 2011 at 9:33 PM said...

OMG!! These commandments I am copying and saving, for future! :D :D Absolutely Romantic!! And simple! :D :D You have given Godly ;) advice, My lady! :D

Smita on November 15, 2011 at 10:53 PM said...

am not married, have an exam tomorrow, yet I loved reading this post :P got to save this for future hubby to see and read ;)

Freelancer on November 15, 2011 at 11:08 PM said...

This is the post of the decade!!

This is priceless... am gonna make sure i send one point a day to my girl every time i am in her city.

Oh yes, happy hubby humping wala point too :D

Maverick on November 16, 2011 at 12:34 AM said...

okay! Ma'm, I was passing through web pages just to take a 5 minute break from my CAT prep(mental :P ), which is tomorrow, and i bumped into this. As I read throughout the post, I realised that i ended up indulging myself in every man's eternal dreamland fantasy (i dint intend to make this sound cheesy, but there seems no other way to put it?).
Just a question, Did you decode men or something? I wish we had Nobel prize for psychology too.

aakash on November 16, 2011 at 1:42 AM said...

Right! Suruchi you know, if you were single at this point of time, you could have won the male fraternity of blogger... And, I absolutely adore the facets in your personality, from naughty humor to mature shoulder-giver to the lady-of-the-house... I have already said this a number of times,... you are awesome :)

aJ

Pria Rao on November 16, 2011 at 4:19 AM said...

Haa.. I am tired reading but enjoyed same time :)
I totally hate the part1 but can manage part2 ;)

Sameera on November 16, 2011 at 1:01 PM said...

I am loving it!!! To the core!! Thank you so much for your priceless advice. My fiance will be more than happy.. Tumhare charan kahan hain Suruchi ;)

Shoaib on November 16, 2011 at 1:59 PM said...

Nice tips wat abt wife..?:)

Anita Jeyan Sandeep on November 16, 2011 at 2:10 PM said...

OMG Precious stuff this !!! I am going to put that I love u sign on the back of his wardrobe door today itself ! Thanks..! And I hope no husbands/prospctive grooms / boyfriend sees this. They should just believe that their darlings are angelic naturally and not after reading this post :D

kalpak n. on November 16, 2011 at 2:50 PM said...

suruchi....marry me! :)

Suruchi on November 16, 2011 at 3:26 PM said...

@MSM,
I am so glad you found them good enough and not just what we all know anyways, coz these have been tried and tested and proved to work...just a couple of years ka not-so-hard work and you reap benefits for life:-)


@Smita,
I hope the exam went well and really, pleasing husbands is easier than any exam there could be-and once pleased, life becomes easiest even in face of difficulties:-)

Suruchi on November 16, 2011 at 3:27 PM said...

@Freelancer,
Haha...if you send her a point a day, she might think you are becoming to overbearing. Probably you can begin with showing little ways of caring and the woman in her would automatically follow suit:-)


@Maverick,
It is not cheesy at all-I am so happy to see the men agree...it is based on the fact that men and women need some basic things/treatment to feel special based on millions of years of roles being played. Men like to be respected and women like to be pampered. There is no decoding just some displaying of affection in little things:-)
Thank you so much for the praise and here’s hoping your eternal dreamland fantasy comes true!

Suruchi on November 16, 2011 at 3:27 PM said...

@Aakash,
Haaaaw, now don’t make me sigh about not being single-and you Mr Mad Hatter, you follow me and everyone everywhere except on my page-Tumbling Thoughts:(
Thank you so much for making me feel awesome anyways:-)


@Pria,
Haha...part 1 is not everyone’s cup of tea, I know. Makes one feel like a daasi and husband like the parmeshwar...but trust me, it doesn’t seem or feell like that at all. It would not make you feel any less, just the husband feel a lot more:-)

Suruchi on November 16, 2011 at 3:28 PM said...

@Sameera,
Mere charan yahin hain beta-dharti pe...magar choona mat-pata nahi kya aashirwad de doon aapko! A better option would be a hug and for you Samu, whose been following and loving me everywhere-I only have a sea load of good wishes for your happy married life:-)


@Shoaib,
Thank you, but what “what about the wife?”
When wife gives like that there is no way the husband would not reciprocate in equally loving ways-unless he’s a jerk and a total waste of time, which she should know before marrying him:-)

Suruchi on November 16, 2011 at 3:28 PM said...

@Anita,
That ‘I love you’ sign is really cute unless of course you lose the key of that cupboard door and the chabbi waala comes to repair the damage and looks sheepishly at the sticker and grins like a monkey:-)
And trust me even if husbands/prospective grooms etc would read this, they would not remember it by the time they walk the aisle-too much of sex on their mind!:-)


@Kalpak,
Haha-sure, when and where?
Next birth cycle should do?:-)

Rachana on November 16, 2011 at 3:38 PM said...

I'd never do the part 1! But 2nd part for sure i.e if i ever marry! :P

Dr Roshan R on November 16, 2011 at 3:52 PM said...

they should put this up on the opening page of relationship books, in much the same way they used to put up Gandhi's quotes on NCERT texts :)

Great stuff..

Suruchi on November 16, 2011 at 4:07 PM said...

@Rachna,
Never say never:-)


@Rosh,
Haha, can you imagine me and Gandhi together ever mentioned in any context of similarity what so ever:-)
Thank you...

meoww on November 16, 2011 at 6:21 PM said...

ohhhhhhhhhh myyyyyyyy myyyyyyyy Suruchi..!!!!!
kya khuuuub likha hai aapne..!!!!!
i mean..i guess this is the best piece of advice any body could give a any girl..and i think only you could have done it with so much elan and beauty..!!
its so nice to still see so much affection between couples in today's world of umpteen divorces and blaah..
touchwood and god bless your family..

and i think i am going to follow each one of those..
at the end of the
you receive what you give..
and if you give so much love..you will obviously end up getting triple the more..!!!!

and psst..i was wondering should i show this post to Mr.Maverick or not..
But now that he has read on his own commented...i don't think i have any way of escape...
*sighh*
khi khi khi...
but i am really realyyyy glad he read it and liked it a lottt..:):):)


hehehe...and i am sooooo sure this is going to work as a guiding factor not just in my life..but for every girl who reads it..!!!
you are suuuuuuuper awesome..
and yesss you deserve an award for this one..!!

lotsss of love and hugs and mwaahss

god bless you and your family...!!!
Cheers..!!

meoww on November 16, 2011 at 6:24 PM said...

at the end of the day*
silly typos..:P:P:P

subtlescribbler on November 16, 2011 at 6:41 PM said...

Now thats what i ll call- an advice of substance! really powerful and magnetic! I will definitely keep then in mind, HAS to help me in the future :P
and am sure ur hubby/bf is definitely very lucky to have such a mature women by his side :)


sarah

Viya ;) on November 16, 2011 at 6:44 PM said...

hehe AWeeesommmee! :P :P
As soon as i read this post, i sent this to my guy and except for the food part, he was like 'Be yourself baby'! :P :P ..

Paanipuri Lover on November 16, 2011 at 7:02 PM said...

Baap re! Too much to handle! Meri bas ki baat nahi hai! Its soooo much work!

Thank god I don't have a guy in my life! *phew*
Hum itna sab kare, aur ye ladke?! Ye kuch karenge ya nahi?! :P

Keirthana on November 16, 2011 at 7:28 PM said...

Waaah! This much to do and they say men are easy to please! :| Anyway, gonna save these for the future :) You covered every point that could ever be there to please your guy :)

TheGirlAtFirstAvenue on November 16, 2011 at 8:44 PM said...

Woohooo! Is this a long list or WHAT???!!!
But every point you made is valid and I think there are a few points which we women automatically love to do for our men :)
LOL @Kalpak's comment. I wouldn't be surprised even if every guy who read this proposes to you ;)
Your hubby is indeed a very very lucky man to have you! Stay happy always :)

Dr. Pankaj on November 16, 2011 at 9:55 PM said...

Ahh..... Lovely post...
As someone said it should b kept as a front page..
have saved it as a bookmark... bt then do we get girls like these...?
One thing gone wrong n they wud forget everything...
Still hoping for the best..

Suruchi on November 17, 2011 at 12:16 AM said...

@Meoww,
Oh my my at the comment too:-)
Thank you so much-the longish comments always make my day!
I do think this works-I do think the world works on the basic principle of give and take...you can’t do just one of these roles at a time:-)

And Maverick is your guy-wow, he just gave me the sweetest praise ever, above in the comments...You are a lucky gal and now you know what to do too:-)
Hugs n muwaaaaah back to you and here’s wishing you both all the very best:-)


@Subtlescribbler,
Advice of substance, eh?*raising my collars with pure glee*
This post has done less good to the gals and more good to my ego:-)
Thank you so much!

Suruchi on November 17, 2011 at 12:16 AM said...

@Viya,
Just as there are all kinds of gals, there are all kinds of guys:-)
Like he says, be yourself! The post is not telling you to be anything other than that-it is telling you to be more caring and do things that show that you care:-)


@Paanipuri Lover,
Baby , sab yaad thode na karne hain-koi exam thode na hain!
Just some pointers to help you along the way...when you do get a guy, just remember to put him before self and unconditional love is one felling that is always reciprocated, unless you are beating against dead walls!:-)
Here’s hoping you find your guy soon!

Suruchi on November 17, 2011 at 12:17 AM said...

@Keirthana,
Haha, they are-like someone said-men can be easily pleased through their stomach and through something a little below that!
But then short cuts are for short terms!
We are easy to please with a little bit of charm and some genuine concern-but the story does not end there, does it?:-)


@Chandana,
Yes, many of the mentioned stuff comes effortlessly and naturally...they were just sort of reminders:-)
Thank you for the wishes and like everyone agrees-Kalpak and his madness:-)

Suruchi on November 17, 2011 at 12:17 AM said...

@Dr. Pankaj,
There are always girls and boys “like that”...just that we don’t let them be!
One thing wrong and agreed it all comes shattering down but then a little sensible handling brings it all rising and shining again. These points are nothing that can’t be done..we just need a whole lot of will and love to do it:-)
And when we give we get-as simple as that!

Red Handed on November 17, 2011 at 11:38 AM said...

Oh this is entitled to be named as THEWIFECODE :P

Awesome stuff and somehting I shall come back n read before the day of my marriage..gagahaha U r too awesome!

The life-a-holic on November 17, 2011 at 3:09 PM said...

OMG!!! Every point is so special!! Definitely saving it to show my guy :P!!!

The life-a-holic on November 17, 2011 at 3:17 PM said...

And yest when I went to meet my guy, I had gone with a plain face!! I am sure he was glad I at least wore a proper outfit rather than come along with my night clothes!! And he said I look like a beggar :(!! I am sure he was shocking, but now I understand why he got disappointed :P

Paanipuri Lover on November 17, 2011 at 11:37 PM said...

Yaar! Exams ki toh baat hi mat karo! Ab jabhi lists dekhti hoon, tote ki tarah rattna chalu ho jata hai! :P

And see, that was a simple advice! Which I can easily follow! Itna saara kaam toh maine aaj tak life mein kabhi nahi kiya hoga! And even I hope ki I find my guy soon! 2012 is so near na! Kuch experience karke marungi, ainvayi thodi! :P ;)

Suruchi on November 18, 2011 at 12:07 AM said...

@Red,
THEWIFECODE sounds so much like Da Vinci Code...waah, waah-thank you ji:-)
And oye call me for the day of your marriage and I will give you a live recital-atleast tab I would get to see anuglyhead with a beautiful mind:-)


@The life-a-holic,
Thank you girl and you should not show it to him-do him or do it to him:-)
Plain face or not does not matter-they think on the lines of ‘is she taking the same efforts to impress me now that I am hooked as she did before or not?’
:-)

Suruchi on November 18, 2011 at 12:08 AM said...

@Paanipuri Lover,
Haha, cute cheezon ka wiase bhi lakh khoon maaf hote hain-you’ll get away babes with your bucketload of charm!
And yes, whether something’s happening in 2012 or not-experience sab karna chahiye!;-)

The life-a-holic on November 18, 2011 at 6:35 PM said...

Very true!!! :)

Sunitha on November 19, 2011 at 3:01 AM said...

This is defintely interesting. I too follow a lot of those things in 1 and 2 and 3 is defintely a must if you want a peaceful life. But I feel it has a lot of things that may be impractical if both the husband and wife work equally long hours and it has to be tailored a lot based on specific circumstances.But then it might be a working formula for 90% of the people and we might just be one odd couple who work different.. :)
Nice post anyway.

Suruchi on November 19, 2011 at 2:00 PM said...

@The life-a-holic,
:-)


@Sunitha,
We all try and I also try to keep the fights and disappointments at bay despite doing it all...such is life :-)
You are not the odd couple...these are mantras followed in the initial stages, after that the taken-for-granted phase sets in and rarely does anyone make the efforts!
But then as long as we can and as randomly as we can, we should!:-)
Thank you for reading.

Paanipuri Lover on November 19, 2011 at 7:58 PM said...

Aaye haaye! :P ;) :D

Suruchi on November 19, 2011 at 10:02 PM said...

@Paanipuri Lover,
Haanji ;)

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