March 24, 2014

Because we can!

Posted by Keirthana at 6:05 PM
To protect you always is what I will,
That's my life's purpose
The stone that went into the wishing well,
Carries my wish to the lord, I suppose...

I will be your armor and not just a wife,
I will be with you forever and not just in this life,
For you, I will take on the world
To that, I give you my word..

I'll never let that smile of yours turn upside down,
It kills me to see you frown,
My love, be calm and at peace,
I'll set all your worries at ease..

Dedicated to all the ladies who are protective of their husbands and take the lead in life. There are some instances where people typically expect guys to take the lead even in the modern society. It's not outspoken, but there is a notion. For example, you don't see many guys sitting as a pillion rider in a vehicle while the lady drives. People don't expect a woman to take explicit charge of finances, future decisions. It is sad that even some of the women stereotype things like this. When I go out of my way to do all the works inside and outside household, people ask me "Why are you doing this? Won't your husband do it?". It's my convenience. What has the gender got to do with any of this? There's just the matter of getting the job done. What is it to you if I do it or my husband does it? We have our own reasons and circumstances why we are that way. None can judge our life ever and none can know more about our life than us. What if I do every work in the family, does it matter when you have a loving husband who will support you, help you wherever he can, give a foot massage when you are tired and kiss you good night?

 


Our world has changed a lot but there are still some people who see these women as dominating. We don't dominate, we do it because we can and because it's convenient for us. If a woman stands in the front, it doesn't mean she pushes her husband behind and takes the lead. It's because she'd put herself in front rather than risking her love getting hurt. It's because she'd do anything to make his life comfortable. It's not necessary that a guy has to protect his wife after marriage. That kind of typicality is long gone. Women are the protectors ever since- as a sister, a mother, a wife. It's just that things are in the open now. Nothing has changed, nothing will. We will because we can. Before my marriage, I met a saintly person who knew my husband already, he is known for his knowledge and instincts which have stunningly been so accurate every time. He told me "You have got a very good companion in your life. You must be his Vishnu, his protector." I didn't fully realize the wisdom in his words at that time. I do now.

I wrote this post since I realized how much a woman takes on in life. The more important thing I realized is a woman is given so much to handle only because she's the one who can handle it. This is neither a feminist post nor a post to underestimate men. I believe in practical equality, not emotional rebellion. This post is a reflection of some realizations. We don't need women's day to celebrate women. Realizing what being a woman means and respecting it is more than enough.

Until later,

12 comments:

Ashish Rathore on March 24, 2014 at 6:32 PM said...

Hats off to the power of ladies. Mother, wife and sister who self-sacrifice so much to keep their son, husband and brother happy. Without you we would be nothing. RESPECT.

Soumya on March 24, 2014 at 7:23 PM said...

I love my husband. And shall die and kill for him.

This is such a brilliant post Keirthana, I wish I had written it :)

Keirthana on March 24, 2014 at 8:11 PM said...

Thank you Ashish! It's great to know people do realize our efforts.

Thanks Soumya, that's such a lovely comment.

Jemina on March 24, 2014 at 11:44 PM said...

Its really a nice post n certainly more of an eye opener ... Women are neither less nor more.. They just are... Condident, independent, caring as they have always been and will always be ;).
Loved your post :)

PeeV ee on March 25, 2014 at 10:27 AM said...

Brilliant... I second Sowmya, wish I'd written this :)

Midnight scribbles on March 25, 2014 at 11:38 AM said...

aww, love the poem at the beginning. I have no hubby, but thats how i wish to be indeed :D

Keirthana on March 25, 2014 at 3:06 PM said...

@Jemina: Thanks, yes indeed women are that way because that's our choice.

@PeeVee: Thanks dear!

@Midnight scribbles: Thank you, And when you do marry, I am sure you would be all this and more. Cheers! :)

DEE DEE on March 26, 2014 at 12:27 PM said...

I loved it.....

DEE DEE on March 26, 2014 at 12:40 PM said...

Soumya I loved that comment....I feel that in the courting period itself

Ananya Tales on March 28, 2014 at 11:42 PM said...

What a post ! Hats off girl !

songbird on March 31, 2014 at 4:53 PM said...

This is a lovely and inspiring post. Even in today's world with its alleged modernism, women still ride shotgun while men drive, and men are always expected to propose the women. If a woman does these things, she is seen as less feminine and domineering, but this mostly happens because of the stereotypes in society. The husband might feel 'crushed' when the woman does the job that he supposedly should do. But again, these views and opinions can be traced to the ages of our forefathers and hunter gatherers, since when itself women were considered weak because of their lower physical strength. Nevertheless, I dream of a society without strongly established definitions of what is girly and what is manly. Great post!

The Purple Assassin. on March 31, 2014 at 10:40 PM said...

Beautiful piece!

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