I Crush You...Till I find someone better

What exactly is a crush?
Crush is the instantaneous attraction for someone. a crush is when you think about someone all the time. It is multiple and doesn't last for long.
Sometimes, crushes may turn into love. But, many a times it just fades away as a nice memory or If a new person appears the crush just gets transferred from one person to the other

Yes Girls, Admit it, many times in life you must have seen a super cute guy and wondered "Why can't I be his girlfriend?"

You know..from like teen years having a crush on your classmate or senior, or a swooning over a cute teacher's smile or a charming work colleague.. We all have been there done that...

I personally have had crushes on this rugged, unkempt guys with broad shoulders and nice forearms who have a cliched sense of humor..
I have like a proper rendezvous conversation in my head with my crushes, but the moment he comes in front of me its like I lose me oh-so-confident self, my voice box vanishes and the whole body switches into a dunce retard mode...Im like DAFAQ...Where did all those coo-chi-ccoing-asking-him-for-a-date one week long conversation go off..?

Without a co-worker crush, work seems so be so cold and boring..I mean every girl needs an eye candy. How else would you survive in a mundane environment for 90% of your week..
Yea, though you know you ain't gonna get serious..plus this new crush doesn't re
ally know of your lascivious thoughts over him..
Its actually dangerous for him to show your thoughts...it might turn scandalous ya know...Like really, no one wants to be the "hot topic" at the coffee vending machine area and the butt of smoking area jokes right..

The mind generally wanders off around them, hormones do the talking "How would it be to be with this person?" and everyone hanging on the arms look so wrong to your green-with-envy-eyes..You see them everyday..so its like keeping a juicy bone in front of a hungry chained dog close enough for it to sniff it but not have it..
Then a new cutie enters, and the old crush lies forgotten....

Still.....even after a lot of yes-no's-blushes-secrets-tears-smiles...we never stop crushing on those who make our hearts flutter,even if its temporary

"Darling, I have a big crush on you, till i find someone better"
Happy Crushing!!!

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You're The One, I Love !

Each day spent with you

Is

A special one.

And

I want you

To know,

That just being close to you

Is

A wish come true !

I

would give you the world

if I could

the sun,

the moon

and all the stars ,too

 

But all I can give you

is

what’s mine to give

all my hopes,

all my dreams

all my love

all of myself.

Sweetheart

I love you

With all my heart.

Smita

Yes or No....!

Yes.

Yes Yes Yes.

Yes, the answer to the question is a big Yes.

The question : Whether to keep or not the gifts or things gifted by your ex-girlfriends/boyfriends.

The answer   : Yes.

The dilemma keeps on striking each-day, everyday from inside. The question, as to keep the memories or discard them away keep bugging you from inside every-time you come across them. What to do and what not to do! Whom to tell and whom not to tell! Keep it ? Throw it?

What?

Love Quotes

You don't love him/her anymore, you don't think or care about that person anymore but still you have his/her memories with you. You still carry the wallet gifted by her, you still put on the perfume gifted by him, you still have the soft toy gifted by her on your table, you still wear the ear-rings gifted by him,you still read the book she had gifted you once and you still use the key-chain that he had got for you.

 

You don't care about that person anymore with that earlier intensity. You don't wish to know about the whereabouts of that person anymore. You don't want him/her anymore in your life. You are done with that person but still you carry his/her memories with you.

               

 One of my friends showed me his ex-girlfriends ear-rings and bracelet that he carries with himself to till date. They broke up some 2-3 years back.The guy had secretly kept those things of hers and keeps it with him every-time. Once in conversation with him,the question aroused, should he keep them?

Answer is, Yes.

Though it's my perspective about the scenario and I would gladly like to be corrected if I am wrong.

Why does one has to throw away the things gifted by their ex's? Why? You loved that person once, right? You were madly and irrevocably in love with that soul. For you he/she meant the whole world. You would have done anything just to make him/her happy. You cared from your heart for that person, right? You never left a chance to make memorable memories with that person. You would have brought the whole world at his/her feet if he/she would have asked you to do so. You had once waited for all the things gifted to you, you accepted them with much happiness once, right? So now why even the thought of throwing them away?

Throw them if you have been in a bad relationship, if you just couldn't connect any good memories with them. But then also, try looking at the brighter side, and believe me, there's always one in every thing. You just have to look a bit harder to find the brighter one. A s the darker part always try shadowing the brighter part.

Throw away the gifts, cards and stuff if you hate that person for some or the other reason now. Discard them all if you don't want to recall that person's memories in your life anymore. Erase all his/her footprints from your life and surroundings if they make you suffer. But then, does being in Love with somebody made you suffer? If yes, then you were fooled for being infatuated and you thought it was Love! You were in Love but the other was just playing!

 I, personally would like to suggest to keep the memories with you if you have that mental level that you can control your foolish inner-self from being hurt every-time by seeing those things.

I would like to suggest him to keep all the stuff he has of her ex-girlfriend if doesn't hates her. Keep them. Keep the memories. See it and feel the aroma of love for somebody else if not for her. Don't see it as something bad, reminding you of the bad phase you had with the person to whom those things belong to. See that as somebody whom once loved you and cared for you and had got some of her love and care for you in the form of that gift. Take it as a token of your Love, the real reason why you kept it, the real reason behind still keeping it. Mark it as a symbol of Love you once felt or still feel for somebody.

Keep the ear-rings, keep the bracelet. See it as a token of love. Don't see it as her if you don't want to.Keep it for life or pass it on to somebody you would Love in future,if that person can understand the value of those articles. Keeping such things is in itself a big deal. Not everybody does that. You did that because you felt something and maybe you still do. 

 I still have the photo of somebody I loved. I won't delete it however coming across it does hurts me. But the thing I shared with him once was pure and real from my side. And no matter what the outcome of that thing was, what all consequences I and he bore because of that, I still Love to remember sometimes that somebody did really cared for me once. Though his existence doesn't bothers me anymore but still I don't feel like deleting his photo, that I have with me with him still ignorant of this fact. He too might be having something of me, if he really cared. So this is not bad. This not something to hide, though revealing also should be avoided to all. This is the your true spirit celebrating your true Love, even when the other person ditched it!

 

Attaching yourself to somebody's inanimate object like a snap together, a gift or any such thing is no foolishness. It shows how much you were into that other person. It's the feelings that are attached. It's the unsaid words that matters. It's the bond that you shared with somebody that is binding you with that thing. It's no bad to keep it. Keep it and cherish it. Make new memories with it rather than remembering the old ones. Life is about moving on. Keep walking and keep smiling, this should be the attitude. 

Many will come and many shall leave but dearer are the ones whose memories shall never leave.

Smita

O dil bewakoof !

Yea, I have a दिल , and my दिल  is बेवाकूफ़ !

  Every-time I see a good guy, my heart just starts jumping !! 

Okay not every second guy that I see, but every time I see a perfect guy, why does this बेवक़ूफ़ has to get so seriously involved in my love affair? Yes, my love affair! 

It's my life, my taste, my eyes, my senses that see that person and tells my mind and my conscious that that person is simply perfect for me and then my intellectual mind starts preparing for a plan to achieve the target but then this बेवक़ूफ़  comes into play and I get emotional :( I start thinking about all the possibilities of a proposal, even a friendship proposal posed in-front of that guy. 

Why is my दिल such a बेवक़ूफ़ man !

Okay okay, don't be so angry my little red pounding idiot heart.Let the readers also decide who is बेवक़ूफ़. You or me :P 

    This guy is my good friend. He's intelligent and is from my caste only. Our families know a bit about each other. He is polite. Smart to look at. He's funny and is always lightening up the environment. Has a very practical approach towards life and things. Is well spoken, well mannered. And loves enjoying life. He's tall. These are all the relevant things I look in a guy to see him in that ways.

Now coming to how he treats me. He's very open regarding things, be it about his ex or of his present crushes. At the same time, he treats me in a very protective and caring way. Never leaves a chance to meet me or talk to me. We used to chat for hours, sharing our daily stuff during holidays. He guides me, sometimes authoritatively, sometimes sweetly, be it on a personal of professional level. Always is concerned how I take my life and always want to hear out all the smallest details of the problems I face. In short, he's one of those first perfect guys I have met so far. 

Now, coming to my  दिल बेवक़ूफ़  part. My heart likes him but my mind argues that I am not the correct girl for him. I am not so lively, good to look at, fair like him and also I lag in educational level too. But then, this बेवक़ूफ़  just keeps on thinking about all the stupid possibilities this idiot can actually imagine. I feel so terrible at times when I meet him as a friend with brain treating him as one of well wisher's but this बेवक़ूफ़  keeps dreaming in the opposite direction, I am shy to say in what direction :P lol

Now coming to this second guy! Man, he drives me crazy ! He's just so sweet, so well mannered, so nice, so well spoken, so cute, so smart. Man! He's another perfect guy! He too is of my same caste, his family too has same traditions as that of mine. Infact, he lives totally the way we live. We just have so many similarities, be it in anything.

He's tall. Smart, educated, belongs to a nice family and also one of good friends. Cares so much for me when we are together. Never ever makes me feel low. He's always lightening up the environment. And the shocking thing is we have so many common interests. It's something that has never happened in 22 years of my life! 

He talks so honestly and frankly that whenever he speaks I only feel like listening to him, without uttering a word ;) He just looks so cute when he speaks. His talks are always so interesting to listen to, he's always cracking jokes, but he also praises the qualities he feels like praising. And this is the quality I like the most in him. He's just so innocent to talk to. Of-course he knows all the evils do's and dont's of today. He knows how to behave with a girl, how to tackle things, how to be Mr. charming :P

He talks wonderfully. He actually knows how to make my mood. He just cares  for me so differently. Man! I am so much getting trapped in his charm! Warns me about what not to do. Praises me like nobody has done before. I just feel so comfortable, lively and happy when he's around. He does makes me smile :)

Now, coming to the real confession. I like them both. No, wait. One more than the other. But I don't know whether they like me or not. :( And this is where my दिल  comes into scene and does all that बेवकूफी ! How am I supposed to tell somebody how much influenced my stupid दिल is with him. How am I supposed to get out of all this ! These two treat me like I have been never treated before and also like nobody treats a friend. Now, who's बेवक़ूफ़? 

Me or my दिल !