November 22, 2011

Things happen....

Posted by Smita at 9:00 AM
Shit like this happens, but then it's that strong spirit of the feminism in us, that we bear it all with dignity.
One doesn't know whether one should write this, but let's face it, for once and all.

She went on a vacation to this distant place with her realtives. Very very close relatives they were hence she was allowed to for a week long trip with their two boys to this distant place.
She was young, in her early teens and so was he. Also was there another boy, younger to both of them. He being two-three years elder to her.  And technically, they were cousin brother-sisters.
The relative couple had rented a room but due to much cost the couple would sleep in the bed while the three children were made to sleep on two mattresses joined together, laid on the floor in the other room.
She would sleep on one side, he on the other side, with the youngest boy in the middle.
Things were fine as they are supposed to be between brother and sisters but one early morning, she felt a touch, a touch that she didn't like.She was waken up by it! The moment she woke up, everything was back to normal. She ignored.
Next morning too happened the same thing. With close inspection she discovered, every early morning, the eldest boy would wake up before she and anybody else wakes up and would slid his hand in her sheet just to ......................(sorry I can't write all that).
But how was she supposed to say it to anybody? Her mother won't believe her and her relative, she looked up-to her after her mother. She didn't want to hurt anybody. Also nobody would believe. She was too young to complain about anything like that. Also, it was about her cousin brother sexually abusing her!
She couldn't sleep properly till the trip ended. Every night she would wrap herself from both sides up-to the neck, not to leave any gaps to give him a chance to repeat all that again. Little did she succeed and little did she fail.
She maintained her distance from that cousin for some next few years. And maybe he too realized he was arong and felt the guilt of doing wrong with his only cousin sister. After a communication gap of few years they are again talking now. The girl has forgiven his brother for everything. That stupid act of his might be just a rush of some bad company back at school or just a rush of doing that bad things that teenagers get attracted to easily int heir teens without proper guidance for maturity and all those things. They have never ever talked about that. Brother still doesn't know that she knows what he did to her during that trip. Nobody else knows. It's a secret she will carry to her grave no matter what.
He now cares for her little sister way more than too much. Like she's his real sister. Things are all normal now. But what was all that happened? Something she should have complained about or something that should be deep buried. Shitty things happen, but let's just pray such shitty things never ever happens to anyone.


The Updater on November 22, 2011 at 1:52 PM said...

Shit happens! Right. And yeah, sexual abuse is not something one can confess easily. But like you said, standing up to it, with dignity is all that matters.
Great post! :)

The life-a-holic on November 22, 2011 at 2:29 PM said...

Such stuff definitely happen!! But I am glad the boy understood his mistake and rectified it in the right way!

Rahul Bhatia on November 22, 2011 at 4:04 PM said...

Right behavior is a part of upbringing and that is what is lacking! Good, some wise senses prevailed as a part of growing up!Very thoughtful post!

Dr Roshan R on November 22, 2011 at 6:18 PM said...

the fact is such things happen... I'm not soconvinced about the 'purity' of his affections to the sister... noone has the right to take advantage of any girl..let alone their own blood relations in such a manner..

meoww on November 22, 2011 at 8:47 PM said...

sickkkkkkkkkkkkkk :/:/:/

but the good thing is that fellow has now realised his mistake..
cheers !!

Smita on November 23, 2011 at 10:34 AM said...

the updater : exactly, dignity regarding such things is what differs women from men :)

the life-a-holic : Yes, he understood what he did was wrong and now he's changed, changed for the good :)

rahul bhatia : exactly, ignorance leads to a lot of mistakes at childhood stage .

dr roshan r : yes, women should be respected, no matter in what relation they are with them into.

meoww : Yea, fellow realized it, and that's what made her bury that thing in some deep corner of her heart. :)

maithili on November 23, 2011 at 10:51 AM said...

You are right about the bad company.. You have been kind to him.. Nevertheless I don't respect people who can put hands on any girls respect..

Keirthana on November 23, 2011 at 10:25 PM said...

I agree with Maithili. You have been kind to him. Anyway, I am happy that the guy realised it and that you could get over it :)

Smita on November 23, 2011 at 10:43 PM said...

@maithili : I too thought about that point hence being kind was the only way to make him realize his mistake,

@keirthana : yea, and things are all fine now :) I may never forget about it, but I can bury it deep somewhere to be lost someday :)

Confused Soul on November 25, 2011 at 10:34 PM said...

It sure is hard to accept something, more so talk about it to others. But no matter what, I think you should still keep some distance from him. May be he has changed, but if I were in your place, I wouldn't respect him. Ever!

Smita on November 26, 2011 at 10:34 AM said...

confused soul : I know, I too had decided about keeping a distance from him always, but I just so can't help with me being the natural me :)

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