Chastity - I smell it on you!

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*This post has scientific back up - and has been collected from requisite sources - All the opinions are my own and can be raised for debate. Now read on, Disclaimer's Over ! :D*

Is Virginity a choice? Lack of opportunity? Or fear of the outcome?

Honestly, I came to learn of virginity, very late in my life - actually how to lose it, I must say. No, I am chaste...however, to break the solid mental blocks that I had, science came to my rescue. I was judgmental initially (I was 13, yes...coming of age and SUPER scared!) I used to think you can get pregnant if you share a toilet seat (with a guy, yes you can laugh...*looking away*) Anyway, hehe, so I read about what 'virginity' was and I thought it was SUCH a big deal...it still is.

However, on a serious note, this question really bothered me...is virginity a choice? Not really. If I had to rate this on a scale of 1 to 10 (From Lowest to Highest), I would give 8 to Fear and 4 to choice. Lack of opportunity does not count, as there's no scarcity, it's readily available if one looks for it. ;) But how much ever we develop the fact that Indian society is now "growing up" welcoming a discussion on taboo topics like this, we need to admit, the stigma is potent. Very potent. Men still would love to have a virgin as their life partners... (Sorry, menfolk, I understand that the ideology might be same with the Fairer sex, just that women have been brought up to not question some things - which is changing, but very slowly). As we can see, it is in this era, that women can alter the state of their virginity and it is in this era, that the tests have evolved to see whether a woman is virgin or not. Yes, the question then becomes relevant, where does the choice lie or does it even exist?

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There is a psychological reason to this issue. Human beings in general are territorial and they assume the same with their partners - so if my man or a man's woman has been with another mate - in a physically intimate relationship, the ability to appease or satisfy is threatened. To put in simple words, the egos are hurt as the capability to satisfy the mate is questioned. So, virginity doesn't really depend on opportunity, it depends on choice. Honestly, a man cannot tell whether a woman is virgin or not - unless she chooses to tell him or unless he has done it a million times before. The 'hymen' may tear due to excessive sports or other rigorous activities or may not be developed...hence a woman may not bleed...when she indulges in an intercourse for the first time or whenever.

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Honestly, men these days are very understanding, at least in the present generation. However, there is a fear of being rejected by the society and that of being left alone, tagged  and demeaned, if it turns out that a woman had  indeed slept with another man, she is looked down upon, by the people around her. We find it easy to blame others - she is slutty, she is always horny, they are always making out...they must have done it, she is not a virgin. My point is Virginity should be a choice, it is not for women - though there might be exceptions. And Fear, plays a major major role! Women, Men back out due to lot of factors - Sex for them, involves too many emotions, normally. Then there is a fear of 'protection' being not enough and the chance of pregnancy and third, to be chaste for 'The One'.

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I believe, that Chastity or Purity goes beyond the body or state of it. Primal emotions, which humans have, really doesn't heed to the fact if you have done it, it depends on how you do it :D And therefore, MSM would   Love to believe that Virginity is a choice and should remain so.