The Species Called Men

Sorry about the long absence girls. I have been finding my feet, I’m sure you’ll forgive me *puppy eyes* This post is as much to myself as to all the girls out there. I can be held guilty for not entirely practicing what I preach.

Men are from Mars, that’s the whole point. We don’t understand them much. 

We don’t understand why they don’t always say what they feel, why the leave the socks there, all smelly and dirty, in spite of a hundred odd pleas. 

We don’t know why they prefer not to cuddle during a Chelsea vs. Manchester United match nor do we get why they just shut down during a fight and refuse to talk. 

We don’t always understand what makes them tick.

While they try to figure out how our (girls) brain cogs work, let’s spend some time discussing some things that we do that are very, very pissing off for men.

I’m excluding fathers from the sample population for they remain mothers’ area of jurisdiction and also because daddy’s girls never have rules with their daddys :P

1) Nag, much?

Don’t. Just don’t. It’s difficult but control that tongue when you feel like telling him something over and over again just because he hasn’t done it yet.
Like for example, when he isn’t calling you enough, don’t nag about it and state the examples of all and sundry stating how much they call each other. I guarantee that whatever it is that you want from him will not get done. Unless you manage to irritate the crap out of him until he does it; he will resent you for this though.

Whining about everything from that girl you hate to the bad skin day you’re having to your chipped nail polish and undone presentation also is not going to have him looking forward to spending time with you.

Share, don’t suffocate.

2) Grow a sense of humor

Learn to see the funny side of things and don’t take yourself so seriously all the time. Learn to laugh at yourself even. Tell him that dirty joke you read yesterday and he’ll be proud of you. Trust me. Men LOVE women with a sense of humor. Why do you think Spiff and Red are so popular among the men?

3) Never compare. Ever.

“You know Sumitra’s guy? Dasarath? He sent her a bouquet of flowers from THE U.S! Can you believe it? Isn’t she lucky?” *looks pointedly*

I know you think you’re dropping him a hint but to him it sounds like you’re call him useless, inadequate and uncaring.  Don’t do it. Just don’t.

The better way to do it? Just go up to him and say it would mean a lot to you if he got you a rose. If you mean anything to him at all, he’s sure to get you a whole garden. How many times have we heard men throw their hands up in despair and ask ‘Why didn’t she just say so then?!” So just say it.

4) Show interest

My guy is a hardcore gaming addict. And all I knew about gaming was how to maneuver each car in NFS: Most Wanted and to blow up enemies in Blur. He listens to all the crap about blogging, something I love. So the least I can do is to read up on what God of War and World of Warcraft are and try to find out enough about gaming so that I can do more than just nod and look disinterested in the whole thing.

Same goes for work, friends, movies. Learn more about what he likes. Just like you want him to, with you.

5) Balance is the key

He goes shopping for kurtis and pumps with you na. Why don’t you watch that action flick he wanted to with him? It’s not about finding fight scenes boring, it’s about balancing out both your likes/dislikes.

When he goes out of his way to call you in the middle of an important project because he knows you’ll worry, ditch your friends once in a while and go out with him. Real friends would understand and he’ll only like you more for it, knowing that he’s a priority in your life.

The most important one:

All guys watch porn. All guys check out other girls. That’s how they are. That’s how men are made. Deal with it. It’s not their ‘fault’. So stop raising hell with them about it and give them their space and freedom. For isn’t it better that they tell you everything rather than doing stuff sneakily behind your back?

And if you can bring yourself to cater to reasonable fantasies, money back guarantee that they’ll eat out of your hand.

Like Chintan says, I know we like to analyze and over-analyze every single thing, over think each action and word and basically use our brains too much but when it comes to men, let’s just keep it simple, shall we?

If you need all this in no uncertain terms, go read this @ The Blunt Blog.

Note: The above are just examples I could think of based on my own life. Each scenario is different depending on what it is and who the guy is.